Five Ways to Fall Madly In Love with Your Body

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Editor’s note: This is a guest post by Elizabeth Casey. She is a freelance writer and she would love to interact with you in the comment box below.

Do you love and accept your body or do you criticize it for various perceived flaws and shortcomings? Be honest. If you’re like most people in western culture, your body is not something you are ravishingly in love with, nor have you ever considered the idea of being in love with your body. You more than likely wish that your body was different, whether thinner, younger, heavier, more fit, whatever. Maybe, you simply dislike a particular body part and wish it could change. Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Many, people dislike or even hate their bodies. I argue that this body-disdain is deeply harming humanity. This adversarial relationship that so many of us have with our bodies is keeping us from our fullest potential as human beings; it means that we are fractured. Our thoughts and obsessions about our bodies keep us from living fully and deeply. This needs to change.

The following are five tips for falling madly in love with your body. These tactics have worked wonderfully for me; I’m happy to say that I truly, deeply, and madly love my body now after years of dominating, controlling, criticizing, and trying to change her.

Tip#1: Pick One Thing You Like about Your Body and Concentrate on That

One day, in my late teens, I was crying to my dad about how fat I was and he suggested that I pick one thing that I liked about my body and concentrate on that one aspect. Really, the only thing that I liked about my physique was my intensely muscular arms. I was a strong, farm-girl with very toned arms, so I told him that. He told me to sit down and look at my arms and say nice things to them for at least five minutes per day. I felt rather foolish doing this, but after a daily practice of this for 30 days, you know what? It worked! I began to look forward to my sessions and I started finding other things that I then appreciated about my body. I began telling my body sweet things about all kinds of her aspects. The process began to feed itself. I started feeling better. And, I began to think differently, too.

Tip#2: Write Down What You Wish Your Body Looked Like

Write down all of the qualities that you want for your body. Make a list of everything that you want your body to look like or to be able to do. Try to be realistic. If you are five feet, five inches tall, imagining yourself as six feet tall will probably not feel very attainable. These qualities work best if they are things that you believe you can attain. For example, maybe you want healthier hair, greater fitness, or a smaller waist. Write it all down and then read back through your list several times. As you read, try to get a clear mental image of what you want to look like according to the qualities that listed. The more you can visualize and the more detail you can imbue your sessions with, the greater your chances of attaining what you want, eventually. The mind is an incredibly powerful tool that heavily influences the way our bodies look. By focusing deeply on a vision of how you want things to be, you are “programming” your subconscious to accept a new reality and to eventually bring that reality about. The results are astounding. Do these as often throughout the week as you can and watch for the results.

Tip#3: Talk with Your Body

Yes, you read that correctly. Talk with your body not at it. Have a conversation with your form. I start at the top of my head and work my way down. I’ll say things like: “Hello, hair! How are you feeling today?” And, then, I wait for an answer. At first, it was very hard to train my mind to wait for my body’s answers, but it got much easier with practice. Now, I always hear an answer in my mind when I ask my body how she’s doing. This practice trains you to consult with your body and ask its opinions about the decisions that you are making on its behalf. It trains you to consider your body as a part of you, but a consciousness in and of itself, which leads to greater awareness about your body and its needs. Your body will talk to you. It’s just that most of us are not trained to have a practice like this with ourselves. I grew to adore my question and answer sessions. My body is a real talker and I listen!

Tip#4: Practice Deep Belly Breathing

Did you know that a practice of diaphragmatic breathing helps our bodies tremendously? Also known as deep-belly breathing and abdominal breathing, it’s one of the quickest and easiest ways to connect with your body and feel its majesty. It’s also a tremendous boon to your health. Just adding in diaphragmatic breathing can lower blood pressure, reduce stress, increase blood flow to your vital organs, improve memory, and amazingly, make you like your body more. When we feel better, we appreciate more and when we are healthier, it’s easier to feel better about our bodies.

Tip#5: Tell Your Body Five Remarkable Things It Lets You Do

This one is not always easy for people, especially people who are used to constantly criticizing their bodies, but it’s really, really fun. Tell your body five things that it lets you do that you enjoy doing. For example, you might say: I like that you, my dear body, make it possible for me to ride a motorcycle. I really like that you help me feel deeply and cherish my loved-ones. I love that you make it possible for me to walk up stairs and get around. I like that you, dear body, let me hug my children and feel them in my arms. I like that you offer a house for my soul to be here on the earth plane to experience so much. This practice, again, puts you into a mood of appreciation and reverence. It helps you see all of the things that your body does for you, often without complaint, and reminds you that things are not as bad as they often seem.

If we do not love the self, the full self, which includes the body in all of its permutations, how can we ever truly love and accept others? How can we appreciate other life forms or expect to walk softly on the planet? How can we revere the magic, sacred dance of life in a state of near-constant self-hatred, criticism, or disdain? Ultimately, we can’t. We cannot expect to truly, abidingly love others or respect all of life until we learn to love and embrace our emotions, our thoughts, and our bodies that allow us to do so much here on the earth plane. Unless we learn how to foster a deep, lasting love for the body, we cannot truly accept our lives or heal the emotional rifts inside of us. Falling madly in love with your body takes a conscious, dedicated practice, but when you do get there, when you step into that sweet place with yourself it is simply the greatest feeling in the world. Your life improves. And, you feel happier. This is what the body teaches us and the gift that it holds for us.

All my love and light to you each and every one of you.

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Over to you…..

Do you agree with Lizzy’s concept? Or do you think there are other things she could have added that she didn’t? And are there any additional steps we can take to love and make our body respond to us when we talk to her?

As ever, I’d love to hear from you. If you have anything you’d like to add, please leave a comment below. And don’t forget to share this post, if you think your friends and followers would enjoy it :)

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The Consumer Hunt–The joy and instinct that drive her to SHOP

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Editor’s note: This is a guest post by Sarah Epia. She is a freelance writer and she would love to interact with you in the comment box below.

 

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This is one question that has been on the lips of many, especially the men who find this abstruse. One can say women and shopping are synonymous, more like one word. Fact is, everyone loves shopping but some argue that men “buy’ while women “shop”. Men are said to be on a mission; they get into a shop to buy a specific item, probably with the help of a sales associate in finding the item, followed by the associate’s help in getting through checkout quickly. While women on the other hand, have a knack for shopping, they so invest in the shopping experience. Women shoppers value and appreciate sales associate who make them feel very important by giving them a tour of the shop and proffering items to them.

 

Shopping activity is esoteric, and women are very fond of it, they don’t mind spending their last money on shopping, this may seem quite unusual but I have some points that have undergone scrutiny that will help change your speculative beliefs as regards women and their love for shopping.

 

REASON FOR CHANGE

Now, who doesn’t love change? I’m so sure I would not get a negative reply for this. Shopping brings about change for women, because change brings about pleasant situations. Ab-initio, change is constant, and so is shopping. Having a particular look everyday could be boring and this limits your interaction with people, so therefore, there is a reason for change and that is where shopping comes into play.

 

TO DOLL UP

It is a well know fact that clothes, footwear, eye wears, belts, shoes, bags, accessories and many other fashion items that raises a woman’s style quotient deserves a place in her shopping list. And why she does need all these items? It is because she loves to doll up, she loves to look good and be appreciated. Know also that buying one fashion item in her shopping list automatically paves way for the other items in her shopping cart.

 

BEAT COMPETITORS

Women can never resist the temptation to redo their living room after catching a glimpse of her neighbor’s, neither can she refuse the urge to get a new dish set, she saw at a friend’s kitchen, those new pairs of stilettos worn by a co-worker or that super stylish candle stand grinning at a pal’s dinner party. They will always want it, because someone else has it BEING A WOMAN This totally qualifies as a reason for shopping. As the unrepentant shopaholics that women are, they will never fail to live up to their names. So don’t forget that shopping for women is a daily ritual, they are always unabashed scanning for ads, sorting through heaps of shoes or racks, neither does she mind waiting in line. HAPPY SHOPPING WOMEN!!!

 

Over to you – please use the comments section below to share your own views and experiences:

  • Who do YOU think likes shopping most between men and women?
  • If your answers are yes, why and what do you think is the reason behind women’s obsession towards shopping??

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100 Top Inspirational & Motivational Books by Women

A great resource from the stables of Mirth and Motivation! Read and enjoy and share!!

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“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt

Several hours ago, I was reviewing the list of Motivational and Inspirational Books inan old blog post I had written; it was a list of books I recommended that every one read this decade. As I went down the list of books, something struck me as odd. I looked again and it dawned on me that my list was choc-a-bloc with books by men; inspiring men, yes, but nary a woman in sight. I started thinking about this glaring omission and decided to do a Google search of books under the generic term; motivational & inspirational.

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Ten Reasons to Blog: Your Ego can Handle it!

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Ten Reasons to Blog: Your Ego can Handle it!

Blogs, social networks, newspapers, any other form of publication – all have social aspects to them. It is a spectrum really, with social networks at one extreme and a 19th century novel at the other. But there’s room for all types of social publishing platforms. Richard MacManus

Were you voted most likely to dominate the publishing world in pre-school and again in High School? Okay, so you always imagined becoming the next J.K. Rowling or publishing superstar? Let me guess, was it the famous psychic who assured you your name will be in lights with your words written all over it? Do you fantasize about retiring filthy rich with the money lode you earned blogging? Is your weekly grocery list the most creative prose you’ve written since your school days?

“Authenticity is not an automatic ticket to…

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