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How to Make a Woman be Obsessed Over You

Hey fellows, I know is been such a while I write here, no excuses though.

Why? Because excuses are the tools of the incompetent, monument of nothing, and those that use it are generally unwise and barely make it in life.

She's Too Obsessed Over Him

She’s Too Obsessed Over Him

That said. I am sure the title of this section got your attention, right?

Exactly what I thought but first let me say that there are many ways to get a woman to be obsessed over you, but today I will be discussing only one of such technique.

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Also, if you’re a regular reader of this blog, you probably know from firsthand experience how using all the techniques together can make women go somewhat crazy over you.

But the next thing to say for those who haven’t had the experience of a woman being obsessed over them: be careful what you wish for.

I basically no longer use any of the
things that I know make women obsessed with me, trust me it really doesn’t worth it unless you are pretty sure you want to have a really long term relationship with them. And honestly it is a bit cruel when you break up with them afterwards.

All this being said I know there are those of you whose goal is just to get one really high quality woman and stay with her for a very long time.

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And for the rest of you, using less intense versions of what I will discuss can still be good for getting initial attraction.

So with this background out of the way, let’s jump right in. Or what do you think?

(Clearing throat) The basics of the method are that you make a woman work to meet your expectations that you maintain for her and women in general. It is just that simple, but of course the implementation is more detailed.

There are many psychological principles that are at work when you make someone work hard to accomplish something.

It almost doesn’t matter what the job is, people who have worked hard at something tend to value the experience greatly, isn’t it?

Plus, I think people tend to value things they had to work very hard to get much more than things that came easily to them. (Fact)

In this case, by making a woman work hard to meet your expectations to get or keep you, she values you much more than the guy who just falls for her with no effort on her part.

The other psychological principle is that people with a great deal of choice tend to be more discriminating and demanding than those who have
little choice.

Women know this and will infer from
your maintaining high standards for them that you have a great deal of choice of what women you can date.

This thus increases your value, and
since it is rare that men do this, you are a rare find.

The third principle is that most people like me, love challenges, and as long as you maintain certain standards then they will enjoy trying to meet
those standards.

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Now let’s look at an example of using this to simply get a woman attracted early on.

Okay let’s say you have just met her and you are talking over coffee. You can simply ask her, “Are you an
adventurous and open minded person? Because I really never enjoy people who are closed to new ideas and trying new things.”

Tell her this & win her over

Tell her this & win her over

Trust me, this expectation says all the right things. Even if a woman considers herself to be not so adventurous, she is still likely to try to be more adventurous around you.

It helps to actually create a list of the things that you really do expect or prefer in women, and actively screen for them.

Remember to screen for character traits and things she can change or do, not physical traits.

So for example, you DON’T
want to say “Do you have D-cups? Cause I really like girls with big knockers!”

Now, to get a woman really obsessed over a longer term, set her much bigger challenges and expectations.

This again usually is more effective
once you know you have her strongly attracted and usually once you are already in a sexual relationship with her.

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An example would be having her learn how to cook or do massage for you by taking classes.

If she is a second generation American (example Nigerian American) but she only speaks English, you might challenge her to learn the language of her grandparents. If she doesn’t have a college education, you might insist she get one.

Again, these may sound pretty harsh, but also notice that they also all result in making her improve herself.

It helps if you are involved in some part of the process, not just an outside


I have seen this stuff in action and it tends to make women totally devoted to their men.

And as I said above, if you also make it something that improves her, then you are doing something good for her at the same time.

Over to you.

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14 Tips For Talking To Men And Attracting Them Like Crazy

Most women dream of the day they will attract the man of their dreams.

Many describe a man who is “tall, dark, handsome, (preferably) rich, sensitive, loves kids, has an advanced degree and loves his mom.”

“I’ve described this same man, listened to my friends describe men of similar ilk and pondered, plotted and schemed about how to meet this mystery man”, said my friend, Natalie.

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Here, after watching (and experiencing) numerous disappointments on the dating scene, are my top tips for attracting the man of your dreams:

1. Be Indifferent

Men hate desperate women. The only thing they hate more than desperate women are those who are only attracted to them because they embody the above-mentioned traits.

Men find women attractive who are not only unimpressed with their wealth and good looks, but treat them as if they are just some average Joe. Men love a challenge.

Don’t you dare let them tell you anything different. Sure, let them have your number and even be nice to them, but just because they call doesn’t mean you have to always be available.

Don’t play hard to get, be hard to get. 🙂

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2. Be Fabulous

When you finally allow your mystery man the pleasure of your company, be fabulous.

Be well-dressed, polite, polished, erudite and sophisticated. You don’t need anyone to save you, for heaven’s sake, you need someone to appreciate all that you are.

Do you think a man is more likely to appreciate you if you are dressed in yesterday’s sweats or if you are dressed in today’s fabulously attractive evening gown, the perfect pair of jeans or the best accessories you can afford?

You don’t have to make a lot of money, but you should look like you are well worth every penny you spent.

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3. Be Mysterious

Don’t tell him every little thing about you on the first date or on the first two to three dates.

As a matter of fact, you never need to tell him everything. Believe me, he is not interested in why or how your ex-boyfriend mistreated you, how much you hate your co-worker or the digestive problems of your precious Fee-fee.

He is interested in you. In the adventure of knowing you. In the excitement of uncovering you (figuratively of course) all for himself.

You can and should confide in him as time goes by, but for heaven’s sake, let some time go by before you start revealing your deepest secrets.

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4. Be Open

Having said the previous about being mysterious, you still want to be as open and honest about who you are and what you stand for.

A man usually wants to know you have an opinion (though he’s not always interested in you sharing it with him).

Most men have a lot of respect for women who know their own minds and I’m sure you know yours. Know when to speak and when to let his remarks roll right over you.

Everything he says does not merit a lengthy response when a simple yes or no will do. You should never, however, lie to your dream guy or mislead him about some significant event in your life.

For example, if he asks you if you have ever been married, it’s okay to say yes, but it’s not okay to immediately give him the details of your last three failed unions.

He’ll find that out soon enough if he sticks around long enough to get to know you.

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5. Be Yourself

It’s important as you get to know this man that you are not a carbon-copy of Paris Hilton, Angelina Jolie or Michelle Pfieffer. You are you – wonderful, unique, incredible you. And if that’s not good enough for him, then he is not good enough for you.

Believe me, you don’t want to start the relationship being someone else, because then you’ll have to live up to it at a later time.

By being yourself and fully unique, you’ll present him with the opportunity to fully appreciate you for the person you truly are. You are worth it.

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6. Smile often

The next time you’re talking to a guy you like, smile more often. Giggle at his jokes, smile now and then for no particular reason and bring that sparkle in your eyes. After all, when you’re happy, it shows. And no guy can resist a girl with a beautiful laugh!

7. Be coy and graceful

Through the ages, women have loved chivalrous men, and men have loved graceful, coy women. Now, there’s a big difference between being a shy timid girl and a girl who’s coy.

Even to this day, guys love coy, graceful girls. So be that one. Twiddle your hair when you’re being thoughtful, have your own cute expressions, bat your twice instead of just once every time you close your eyes.

All these make you very lovable and aww-sho-cute! Learn to be a lady, and the guys will love to become your knight in shining armor.

8. Touch him

Men have always been drawn to the gentle, tender touch of a girl. Even scientific research has shown that guys involuntarily start showing more interest and flirt more with girls who touch them in the middle of a conversation.

Occasionally, touch his forearm or place your palm on the edge of his shoulder, or any other place that would be appropriate for casual touches, and you’ll see how his interest in you would grow in no time.

9. Seek his protection

Throughout evolution, men have always been the hunters and the protectors while women have been the farmers and the foragers.

When you rekindle this primal instinct in a guy, he would appreciate it and love it.

Reach out and hold his arm while crossing the street, smile shyly and ask him if he can hold a heavy book for a minute, hold his hand as a big, scary dog comes near you, etc.

You know the works, make him feel like your protector. And he’ll want to be by your side all the time.

10. Don’t badmouth or bitch

Girls who are use foul language all the time are quite a bit of a turn off for most guys.

Now if you’re Debra Morgan, that’s a whole new story because she knows how to be vulnerable, cry and be strong and independent at the same time. But for all other girls, try to avoid using bad language all the time.

Additionally, don’t bitch about other girls or speak nastily about coworkers and passersby when you’re walking on a street.

11. Be mischievous

There’s nothing better than a girl who can be shy and coy, and show off a streak of mischievousness now and then.

It’s always nice to lighten things up now and then with a few pranks. You can tease him, nudge him by the shoulder, say a few jokes, or all of the above.

Guys like a girl who is all sweet is cute and nice, but it can get pretty boring after a while. Show him your naughty side too.

12. Be polite

This is one of the qualities of a good natured, sweet girl that all guys want. If you want to know how to talk to a guy, keep this in mind.

Be nice, good natured and polite. Mind your P’s and Q’s, and be nice, not just to him, but to the people around you.

You can try to be pretentious and fake when you’re with him, but then, it’s not easy. Instead, learn to be a genuinely nice person and it’ll only make him want you more.

13. Appreciate him

If you use all the tips mentioned here, you’ll be a very likeable girl who’ll be desired by all guys.

And the guy who likes you may try very hard to please you and impress you. And if some guy’s trying to make you feel nice, appreciate the gesture.

Most girls take these things for granted, and over time, the guys will stop paying attention to them.

Really now, if someone does something nice for you, don’t you think they deserve a thank you, or at least a smile? Never forget that.

14. Play hard to get

Always play hard to get if you want to make him like you. Knowing how to talk to a guy is easy, but knowing where to draw the line is not.

Speak to guys in a pleasant manner, but never let them take you for granted. And don’t ever be easily available. That only makes them take you lightly.


Use these fifteen tips on how to talk to a guy and make him like you, and you’ll see how likeable and desired you’ll be in no time!

Over to you.

Girls! Do you resonate with this post? Have I been able to teach you what you need to attract that man in your dream? If yes, why not go ahead and tell me what you learn and how you now feel after knowing all these 14 lifetime secrets. 🙂

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3 Steps To Make a Man Love You

Let’s face it — there is no foolproof way to get every man to fall madly in love with you.

Or is there?… Almost ALL men have the same needs when it comes to looking for the right woman, so there are ways of catching the eye of almost any man.

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  • Would you like to turn the head of any man?
  • Attract that man you’ve had your eye on for a while?
  • Or just want to take your current relationship to adeeper level?

Find the ANSWER in this video by relationship author,Michael Fiore.  In this video, he reveals to you the same three, life-changing steps he’s taught to thousands of women around the world so you can quickly and easily get the man of your dreams.

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40 Entrepreneurship Quotes You’ve Never Heard

good quote is more than just a quote. A good quote can change the way you see the world. A Entrepreneurship Quotesreally good quote can change your life.

When Nick Tart and I did our final read-through of What it Takes to Make More Money than Your Parents (our book of interviews with young entrepreneurs), we couldn’t help but write down some of those really good quotes.

I can honestly tell you that a few of them have changed the way I live and – for that reason – decided to share 40 quotes from our personal lists.


If a quote strikes a chord, click the link to the right. We appreciate the feedback and your followers will appreciate you sharing the inspiration.

Entrepreneurship Quotes

  1. “Everything started as nothing.” – Ben Weissenstein
  2. “To any entrepreneur: if you want to do it, do it now. If you don’t, you’re going to regret it.” – Catherine Cook
  3. “If you’re not doing the things that you love, then your life is not worth living. What are you here for?” – King Sidharth
  4. “Manual labor sucks, dude.” – Alex Fraiser
  5. “A lot of people have said that the internet is a teenager. Guess who understands a teenager best: a teenager.” – Syed Balkhi
  6. “Start today, not tomorrow. If anything, you should have started yesterday. The earlier you start, the more time you have to mess up.” – Emil Motycka
  7. “There’s no committee that says, ‘This is the type of person who can change the world – and you can’t.’ Realizing that anyone can do it is the first step. The next step is figuring out how you’re going to do it.” – Adora Svitak
  8. “Every single person I know who is successful at what they do is successful because they love doing it.” – Joe Penna
  9. “Over-deliver every time.” – Alex Maroko
  10. “There is no reason to be hesitant… becoming an entrepreneur is a learning experience.” – Savannah Britt
  11. “I could never learn what I’m learning at college. They don’t teach it there, because it can’t be learned in that way.” – Philip Hartman
  12. “You’ve got to stop doing all the things that people have tried, tested, and found out don’t work.” – Michael Dunlop
  13. “I think what teenagers lack is the belief that they can be unique and extraordinary in life. Make the most of your age because you’re not going to be a teenager forever!” – Sabirul Islam
  14. “You could have a million ideas, but they’re all worthless if you don’t get them done.” – Lauren Amarante
  15. “Success comes down to hard work plus passion, over time. If you work really, really hard over a long period of time, it will pay off.” – Stanley Tang
  16. “If you have a goal, be relentless in your pursuit.” – Keith J. Davis Jr.
  17. “I just try to think of myself as an entrepreneur who happens to be a teen.” – Mark Bao
  18. “I’m going to reinvent the wheel. My vision of the wheel is unique.” – King Sidharth
  19. “I would like to be the messed-up child of Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates, and Tim Ferriss – morphed into super-genius entrepreneur.” – Marshall Haas
  20. “It’s not about how many years of experience you have. It’s about the quality of your years of experience.” – Jacob Cass
  21. “If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not making decisions.” – Catherine Cook
  22. “If you pursued something that you felt strongly about, then I call that success.” – Adora Svitak
  23. “I like the idea of working hard now, so you can earn big later.” – Alex Fraiser
  24. “Failures are the stepping stones to success.” – Farrhad Acidwalla
  25. “I hope my companies will help create value and make people happier in the long run. That’s what I’m in it for.” – Mark Bao
  26. “All of my friends were doing babysitting jobs. I wanted money without the job.” – Adam Horwitz
  27. “The hardest part about being an entrepreneur is that you’ll fail ten times for every success.” – Adam Horwitz
  28. “It was just one year ago that I realized that what I was doing was entrepreneurship. Just two weeks ago, I learned how to spell it [laughs].” – King Sidharth
  29. “You always want to surround yourself with people who are rooting for you and who want you to succeed. Stay away from the naysayers who couldn’t do it themselves.” – Arjun Rai
  30. “You should always stay hungry. Stay hungry, so you can eat.” – Syed Balkhi
  31. “If you can’t communicate, you’re going to find yourself a lonely businessperson.” – Keith J. Davis Jr.
  32. “I don’t want to look too far ahead. The journey is what’s happening right now, not what’s on the finishing line.” – Sabirul Islam
  33. “Starting your own business is like riding a roller coaster. There are highs and lows and every turn you take is another twist. The lows are really low, but the highs can be really high. You have to be strong, keep your stomach tight, and ride along with the roller coaster that you started.” – Lindsay Manseau
  34. “If you start with nothing and end up with nothing, there’s nothing lost.” – Michael Dunlop
  35. “The biggest failure you can have in life is not trying at all.” – Emil Motycka
  36. “If you’re not in an uncomfortable situation every single day, then you’re doing something wrong.” – Lauren Amarante
  37. “If you can find people who think that what you’re doing is great, they’re going to do everything in their power to make it a success.” – Juliette Brindak
  38. “All that you need to become an entrepreneur and change the world is a working brain – and pretty much nothing else.” – Adora Svitak
  39. “Make it happen now, not tomorrow. Tomorrow is a loser’s excuse.” – Andrew Fashion
  40. “I like computer games and I treat business a bit like a computer game. I count money as points. I’m doing really well: making lots of money and lots of points.” – Michael Dunlop

Bonus Quote: “If you think that you are going to love something, give it a try. You’re going to kick yourself in the butt for the rest of your life if you don’t.” – Joe Penna

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5 Signs He Is the Right One For You

Wish as we might-and despite what romantic comedies would have you believe-there is no magic answer to finding the perfect mate. Discovering if someone is the right one for you usually takes some time. Although we may wish to act solely on instinct-which can be helpful in determining if he is the right one-it is important to give it time before reaching that final decision.

While there is no set-in-stone policy for finding love, there are 5 signs you can use to determine if he is the one.

Sign #1 He Is the Right One – You Respect One Another

When it comes to figuring out if he is the right one, respect should be at the top of the list. Respect is also something that should go both ways. He should respect you and you should respect him, in turn.

You can tell he respects you when:

  • He is willing to compromise
  • He listens to your concerns and feelings
  • He notices when something is wrong and asks you about it
  • He values your opinion
  • He appreciates you
  • He is genuinely happy for you when you succeed


7 Flirty Texts to Send Him

Wooing just isn’t the same as it used to be. While we love when Mom regales us with stories of life as a collegiette circa 1980, we can’t help but go a little green with envy when we hear about the simplicity of the dating scene. If he was into you, he called. If he wasn’t, he didn’t. With all of today’s technology at our fingertips, things have only gotten more complicated. Should you text him first? Will smiley faces come off as cute and endearing or lovey-dovey and creepy? Should there be a moratorium on Emojis?

When it comes time to navigate the texting world, we’ve got you covered. Whether you want to make it clear that you’re searching for a FWB or want to communicate that you’re girlfriend material, one of our favorite flirtatious texts can get your message across (without scaring him off)!

“This class would be so much better if you were in it with me.”

Texting in class may be a no-no, but texting about a class after class is more than just acceptable: it’s genius. Chatting him up on the subject of your coursework kills two birds with one stone by firstly, giving him hints about your interests and academics, and secondly, making it crystal clear that you want to spend more time with him. Even better, you’re letting him know that you’re thinking about him when he isn’t around. If you haven’t talked about your classes at all before and feel like you’d be coming out of left field with this one-liner, however, just modify the text to fit a more universal activity like seeing a movie, going to a party, or studying in the library (e.g., “Studying in the library would be so much less boring if you were here, too”).

“Are you up for a library date?”

While we’re on the subject of libraries, we can’t help but take a moment to sing its praises: there is no place quite like the library, a comfy retreat where campus cuties and collegiettes can come together to make small-talk and catch each other’s eyes sans awkward first date jitters. Asking a guy to study with you is innocent enough that you won’t come off like a stage-5 clinger, but by using the word “date” – key word! – you casually hint that you’re interested in more than just his superb note-taking abilities.

A photo of an event flyer + “Any chance you’re into [insert event here]?”

You see them every day: those flyers plastered around campus telling you to join this club, attend that lecture series, dance at this concert, take a seat at that open mic night, etc., etc. Chances are you don’t follow up on half of them, and that’s okay – you’re a busy collegiette! But open events like these are the perfect way to cozy up to your crush. A photo of the flyer is eye-catching and infinitely more exciting than a text that only explains the event. Plus, he’ll know you went out of your way to make an effort and invite him to something you knew might interest him!

“I had an awesome time with you when we hung out. Let’s repeat that, please!”

Translation: “I can’t stop thinking about you and have no intention of stopping anytime soon, so let’s hang out.” Whether you chatted outside of the classroom, grabbed a coffee together, or engaged in the DFMO to end all DFMOs, you’re making it clear that you’re hungry for more without coming across as a creeper. By saying, “Let us” instead of, “Do you want to?” you eliminate the awkwardness of the follow-up text. Now the two of you are an “us” without ever having to have “the talk.” Works like magic.

“So tell me honestly: do you wake up with your hair looking that perfect or do you have some kind of secret? My lips are sealed.”

This text can be manipulated to fit the cutie in question. Variations include, “Are your arms naturally that nice or do you work out?” or “Are you naturally this witty or are you holding the improv troupe hostage?” Like us, guys love a little ego-stroking every once in a while. Compliment him on something he’s proud of, tease him a bit… hook, line, and sinker.

“I started to text you about grabbing a coffee this morning, but I got distracted. Rain check?”

If you’re fresh out of inspiration and have nothing else to say, turn to this last resort. The text is essentially fool-proof, and the genius lies in the fact that you’ve successfully made it seem like grabbing coffee together was really his idea (and that you were too busy living your fabulous life to attend). The question of actually going out for said coffee is already decided; now it’s just a question of when.

A blank text

Have something to say? Sometimes silence is the best policy (and a little mystery never hurt anyone). If you’re too nervous to start up a conversation all by yourself, “accidentally” send him a blank text. Chances are, he’ll eventually text you back asking if you had meant to say something, and when that moment comes, surprise him with, “Oops, accident! How are things going with you, though?” He may or may not see through your “innocent” act, but even if he guesses that you did it on purpose, he’ll be flattered by the fact that you wanted to talk to him. Then all that’s left for you to do is chat!

As Victor Hugo once wrote, “The first symptom of true love in a young man is timidity; in a girl it is boldness.” Be bold. Drop some heavy hints. Then drop some heavier hints. The texting world is no place for timidity anyway, so tailor a flirty text to fit your crush and press send!

Modern day dating: Can you love more than one person?

Woman with two men

We’re all probably at the point in our lives where we can say we have loved more than once. But can you be in love with more than one person at the same time?

Being “in love” with more than one

It came out of nowhere

It was my last year in school and I was only then realizing that the “real world” was right around the corner. Talk about a crisis. I barely had lived! While my friends were out playing beer pong, I sat at home abiding by my mom’s 6 p.m. curfew.

Yes, you heard me. Six o’clock was my curfew during school. What party starts in the afternoon? Perhaps my mom was afraid I may go Girls Gone Wild at the mall…

While I rehash my senior year of college, you must know I was 21. Yet, I hadn’t let loose. I mean I considered myself quite the risk taker wearing a tube top to class, but let’s be real — I was a pansy. I had to do something unprecedented. I was seeing this guy, and we had chemistry but I was obviously bored — we already had pre-scheduled dates at the local Applebee’s (yea this guy was a charmer, what, I wasn’t good enough for a TGI Friday’s?!).

So, I ventured out to a basketball game with my guy friends. Our college had been a D1 school (I think D stands for division, but it may be the class average too), and I pointed out a forward that was straight out of a GQ magazine. He represented everything bad and I desperately needed that. My friends heckled me and told me I stood no chance with him — and apparently I did (take that suckers!) because we started seeing each other for a while.

The whole time I was seeing both of them but I wasn’t technically dating either of them. I felt like a skank, but in a weird way it was empowering. Guys do it to us all the time, right? Wrong! I wish I had foreseen what was to come.

Playing the game takes effort

“I was so confused about what I wanted, that I didn’t know
who I wanted.”

I fell for both of them — hard. I spent equal time texting, equal time bonding and an equal amount of stressing trying to cope with what I was experiencing. It was like Sister Wives met Ashley Madison and they were all hijacking my brain. Trust me, for a while I enjoyed it. I had found two guys that I really believed I loved. One was stable and respectable, and the other wise and filled with life experience. I cherished different qualities in both of them and I started growing queasy at the thought I was in love with more than one person at the same time.

I mean I’ve heard of crushing on several different people, but being in love? What made me feel like I was in love with these guys? The fact that they gave me butterflies? Or was that indigestion compounded with attraction?

I really felt I wasn’t overestimating my feelings, because I believed that I was a better person with each of them. I wasn’t always 100 percent happy all the time, but I figured that’s also what testified to how I knew it was more than puppy love. I could see my future with either guy, but I wasn’t willing to let anyone go.

What it really meant

Well there you have it folks, a glimpse into my cluttered brain. All I thought about was “I.” The answer was sitting there, but I didn’t even want to verbalize it. Could it have been possible that I wasn’t in love with either of them? I was just in love with the idea? I was so confused about what I wanted that I didn’t know who I wanted.

Well, I thought I was on my way to knighthood when I did the “noble” thing by choosing. I would have loved to tell you I picked the right guy but I didn’t. They both were duds. I ended up dating them separately later and I wasn’t thrilled. Perhaps in the moment I was getting everything I needed from more than one person, so I thought I loved them all. I clearly hadn’t met the right person and I wasn’t right with myself to know that.

I know people can convince themselves that they have a good thing with several different people, but it just may be your own indecisiveness that has cultivated that thinking. So here I am, hopeful and wiser for knowing that being in love is something you should reserve for one person. And it’s far better to wait until that person comes along, preferably when you aren’t having a post-graduate crisis.